ORGANIZING FROM THE INSIDE
It's everything from how we talk to ourselves to how we let others speak to us. It can be the emotional stuff we've been carrying around for years. It's kept us from living our fullest self.
DEVELOPING A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT
This is truly important in defining who you are instead of who people have told you you are. It moves you to a place of empowerment.
Must begin to create a mission statement by answering these statements:
I am happy when __________.
What matters to the most is _______.
I want people to know me for________.
The qualities I wish to possess are _______.
The things I won't compromise are ______.
The people I wish to emulate possess the following qualities _______________.
My perfect day would consist of __________.
Then you must write this out in a paragraph by combining all of these statements. I want you to use pen and paper, old school. Then you must read and edit. Make 3 copies. Place one beside your bed to read before...
I like to use words of inspiration to carry me through any challenging situations I may find myself in. Please consider using them in your life as well.
"Success is high you bounce when you hit rock bottom." George Patton
" You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face." Eleanor Roosevelt
"People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something that one finds. It is something that one creates." Thomas Szasz
"Expect the best; convert problems into opportunities; be dissatisfied with the status quo; focus on where you want to go, instead of where you are coming from; and most importantly, decide to be happy, knowing it's an attitude, a habit gained from daily practice, and not a result or payoff." Denis Waitley
" I don't want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well. " Diane Ackerman...
Let me start by saying, Cheers! A wine tasting is a wonderful way for you and your guests to try out new wines. A tasting affords people the chance to get out and socialize. Having an event like this is a lot fun. It should not be a stressful thing. I am giving you some simple tips on hosting because I know you can be a terrific host. Let me start by dispelling a few myths- -You don’t have to know a lot about wine, you don’t even have to know anything! -You don’t have to get all fancy unless you want to! -There is no wrong way to do one, for goodness sake the wine police will not take you away! -You don’t have to be rich to host one! So, now you know you can do this, let’s learn how…
1. I want you to pick a date to host your event
2. Figure out what you would like to drink. If you are a beginner wine drinker I would like to make a couple of suggestions to you. Start with a white wine. I would recommend Moscato(very sweet),...
"I'm so busy."
"I'm too busy."
How many times have you said these words? Me, about a million! I used to say it so much it seemed to be my mantra.
Having a mantra like that brought out the worst in me. As today's society encourages this "busy" mentality as if it's a badge of honor, I got sucked right into it. I am sharing a bit of my story in hopes that you can avoid my mistakes.
Truthfully, I got a little temporary ego boost from all of my "busy". Let me describe my "busy"- I was a Religious education teacher at our church, a Creative Memories Consultant, PTA President (2 years), on the Prinicipal's Advisory Council, Superintendent's Advisory Council and decided to go back to work full time while getting my 2 boys to all of their activities while my husband worked a job that was always more than 40 hours! I don't tell you these so you can pat me on the back but to share with you my insanity. Maybe you are thinking, 'that's not too bad"? Well, for me it was too much! Now, I know my...
Do you have it?? Do your kids have it? The school year can be a relief for everyone, kids, teachers and parents. However, leading up to this is what I call the fever. It involves dashing here and there trying to put an end to every activity, running yourself into a haggard mess!
It really is no surprise the end of the school year will come. After all, we have a calendar that says so! What amazes me is how surprised other moms I know can get at the busy-ness. **Mental note: be prudent by avoiding overbooking your child(ren). All of those wonderful activities your child(ren) participate in have a year end component to them. This, in my opinion is usually the most underestimated aspect of all. This is where it can get OUT OF CONTROL CRAZY!
I am proposing that this year is your chance to take a stand and defend yourself against the fever!! Here is how I propose you do it...
1. Get a visual system for keeping track of you child(ren)'s schedules. I...
It's that time of year as a parent when you say, "I don't have enough hoursin the day!" It's all about going here and going there until you drag your tired self home and fall into bed. It can seem endless, one day blurring into the next. I am hearing this a lot right now with all of the children's activities and end of the school year fast approaching. Sometimes, you just feel like yelling, "Stop the world I want to get off!"
What is it that can be done to make this time of year be less chaotic??
1. The first thing you can do is determine YOUR priorities. From this point on it becomes PRIORITIES FIRST as your mantra. Take the time to decide on your top 3. The additional things on your list move to the back up list and can be prioritized as well.
2. Be realistic with your time. This means you have to stop underestimating and move into an overestimating mindset. This will require practice but I can tell you from first hand experience it has saved my behind numerous...
This is the continuation of last week's blog on defining what your organizing type is.
Understanding your organizing style can save you
MONEY-when you can't find your bills in a timely manner and they become late this can result in late fees and charges. It could even result in your interest rate increasing if it's a credit card. When I was living in the land of disorganization I once walked around with a utility bill in my purse with every intention of mailing it but I didn't have a stamp so it didn't get mailed. ( this was before on line bill pay!) The next thing I got was a DISCONNECTION notice in the mail! That scared me into finding my inner organizer!!!!!
No one likes it but we all have it, PAPER! Some of us are better handling it than others. Some days are better than others too.
Tax time can really bring out the paper deficiencies in peoples' organizing systems. I worked with 2 clients this month just trying to help them figure out their paper trail. Honestly, they were way off the trail! This can really be a very big struggle for people. I find that I become the most overwhelmed when I don't deal with paper on a regular basis.
The clients I worked with were beyond overwhelmed. When I started to work with them I noticed they didn't have a working organizational system. I could see evidence of one but it was buried at this point.
The first thing I do when I work with clients is that I assess what type of organizing system suits them. It wouldn't do my client any good for me to organize them the way I think if they don't think the same as me.
So, what type of organizing is there? I find there to be 3...
Today I thought I would share with you something I know I am not alone in, making life harder than it really needs to be. Is this you? Do you know people who just seem to do things the hard way?
Just today alone I did 2 things that just made life a little harder than it needed to be. When I was done I actually said, Why did I do that?"
The first complication albeit not harmful or debilitating was just plain dumb! I spent several minutes doing one of my least favorite tasks, folding laundry and took what I call a childlike approach to putting it away. This is where I carried too much in my hands because I didn't want to make 2 trips!!! I got to the top of the stairs when my mountain of folded laundry went flying down the stairs. All I could think of while I was standing there was, "well that was dumb!" After all I already have a solution in place and failed to use it. Some of you might be thinking just use the laundry basket. Well, in an effort to get my children to put their...
While being mom is my greatest joy it is also my greatest challenge!! It seems as though I wind up with unmet expectations, disappointments and then guilt. Where did this come from? There are times I want them to be more independent and other times I want to be the one making the decisions for them.
Guilty as charged
I freely acknowledge I am not a therapist although I did take psychology and child psychology in college! I have reach an understanding that most of my challenges in parenting come from me!! Yes, I just confessed and it feels good....
Expectations-it's all in my head
I've finally reached awareness that the expectations I've placed on my children weren't communicated to them. My mind created the expectation that they would go to college. There was a revelation that I had never talked this over with my husband or kids. Guess, it was just assumed by me! What if they don't want to go to college? What if they go to college and then don't work in their chosen field of college...